INTERESTING: Why You’re Not Successful!

http://www.dumblittleman.com/2014/10/heres-14-reasons-youre-successful.html

So, Here’s 14 Reasons Why You’re Not Successful!
by Robin Oxford-Davis on October 8, 2014 in Happiness, Success

 

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1. Complaining may feel good for a second but it is probably the biggest waste of time there is! It serves no purpose unless you are taking note of what went wrong for the sake of figuring out what you’re going to do about it. Otherwise, shut up about it because really, nobody wants to hear it!

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Ah hah! That’s my problem.

If anyone hears me complain, please ask me: “Am I supposed to be taking notes for your problem solving effort?”

I promise to do the same for everyone else.

Laugh!

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INTERESTING: Reinke’s “Power of Negative Thinking”

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/heres-the-actual-mathematical-equation-for-happiness.html

Here’s the Actual Mathematical Equation for Happiness
Diana Vilibert
August 6, 2014

Equationtopr

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“It is often said that you will be happier if your expectations are lower. We find that there is some truth to this,” said the study’s lead author Dr. Robb Rutledge. “Lower expectations make it more likely that an outcome will exceed those expectations and have a positive impact on happiness.” But expectations don’t just affect our happiness after we learn the outcome of a decision. “If you have plans to meet a friend at your favourite restaurant, those positive expectations may increase your happiness as soon as you make the plan,” says Dr. Rutledge. “The new equation captures these different effects of expectations and allows happiness to be predicted based on the combined effects of many past events.”

And while the key to happiness may not lie in expecting the worst, this study does open up the door to learning more about mood disorders and improving treatment options.

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With all due apologies to Doctor Norman Vincent Peale (Requiescat In Pacem) and his Power of Positive Thinking … …

Here is scientific confirmation of my proposed MEME of a particular wisdom

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“Expect the worst and all surprises are pleasant ones!”

— —  which I call “Reinke’s Law of Negative Thinking”.

Yeah!

Now I just need to right a book on that topic.

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http://lifehacker.com/the-benefits-of-pessimism-1620150406  

Strategic pessimism: This style of pessimism uses strategies to lower expectations and decrease anxiety by thinking through all the negative outcomes and planning for them.

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MEMORIES: “But, I want you to be happy.”

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-intimacy-of-loss-being-together-in-this-fleeting-moment/

The Intimacy of Loss: Being Together in this Fleeting Moment tranquility.
by Stephen Schettini

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“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.” ~Kenji Miyazawa

I love my wife, so it stung the other day when she said, “Hmm … You’re going to have trouble letting me go, aren’t you?”

She’s not walking out on me. You see, she has multiple sclerosis (MS), and she’s referring to the day she can’t walk any more. She’s convinced herself that she can’t handle the guilt of ruining my life, and expects me to leave when she says so.

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On more than one occasion, Frau Reinke broached the same thing. But, even then, I said: “How could I … ” followed by some wise crack. “But, I want you to be happy.”

I knew then and I know know … just ain’t gonna happen.

SO make the best of it, while I wait for the eventual reunion.

“My love, were it in my power, I would sadly grant thee this boon. But, we have to continue to follow His Plan for us. Let’s go forth and speak no more of this. Who ever is last will be last. It will be His choice; not ours. We’re but humble custodians of His temple on earth. It’s not our place to trump His plan. Whatever that plan be, know that I will be with you to my last breath.” — character “John” in CHURCH 10●19●62 Volume 2 Page 399

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I ask her what she means by letting her go. She looks me coolly in the eye and says, “I mean, when I can’t function any more, of course. I want you to move on.”
What the hell am I supposed to say to that? What would you say?

I almost blubber, but that’s no way to be there for her—or is it? I tell her she can’t possibly know what awaits her. She raises an eyebrow. She knows all right.

I recognize the moment of indecision. I pause, breathe, and return to the present.

Funny, after eight years as a Buddhist monk with the finest Tibetan teachers and forty years of practice, I sometimes feel I should have a leg up on life’s sufferings. To be floored by a moment like this disables all I learned—the meditative techniques, the philosophy, the calm sense of stability.

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I’ve have had the practice of the teaching so I guess it’s OK for a grown man to cry?

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