Re-Consider the Rules of Thumb You Use in Everyday Life.
from The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
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My adventures in the lands of happiness research led me to the concept of heuristics. Heuristics are “rules of thumb,” the quick, common-sense principles people apply to solve a problem or make a decision. They aren’t “rules for living” that you consciously try to apply; rather, they’re deeply embedded, often unconscious, rules that you use to make decisions, answer a question, or decide a course of action.
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My children are my most important priority.
Exercise every day.
People don’t notice my mistakes and flaws as much as I think.
My husband is my top priority.
“Yes” comes right away; “no” never comes.
Get some work done every day.
Whenever possible, choose vegetables.
I know as much as most people.
Try to attend any party or event to which I’m invited.
My parents are almost always right.
Ubiquity is the new exclusivity.
If I’m not sure whether to include some text in my writing, cut it out.
When making a choice about what to do, choose work.
I’m too busy to do that.
There’s no wrong decision.
Always say hello.
People in business, small or large, will take advantage of you if they can.
What would my mother do?
Actually, this is good news.
This is the fun part.
Do nothing, go nowhere.
Do everything all at once.
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- Frau is Job #1.
- Doctors and nurses are educated and experienced resources; they are not the Pope and this ain’t matters of faith and morals.
- Fool me or make a fool of me once; no second chances.
- Stop lights are the Universe telling me to slow down and look around.
- In a decade, will I care? Will anyone? So, why do I now?
- Go for the gusto; go “big” or go home.
- I am not my “job”. I am not who I was or am; I am what I will be.
- Focus on Quadrant 1 activities: “Important” and “Urgent”.
- Your priorities are not NECESSARILY mine. Your lack of planning doesn’t constitute n emergency on my part.
- Begin with the end in mind. Planning is everything; plans are meaningless.
- 7 P’s (PPPPPPP)
- There is no such thing as “over communication”. There is ALWAYS someone who is out of the loop thru NO fault of their own.
- There is no substitute for good written DOCTRINE; there’s no excuse for failing to do “LESSONS LEARNED”.
- Don’t get mad; get working.
- NEVER assume that the organization’s objectives are aligned with yours; figure them out and protect yourself.
- There’s no substitute for accurate written records; remember the hearsay rule.
- Can’t cheat an honest man. Live life as if you’re going to explain your conduct to your Mom, Grandmom, and the Creator.
- Life is not like Jeopardy. There’s no extra credit for rudely shouting out the answer.
- The only “dumb” question is the one that you don’t ask. If you’re thinking it, someone else is too.
- The Shouldas, couldas, and wouldas will make you miserable; discard them asap. One year amnesty on mistakes.
- Set up systems that are automatic; your intentions have to be backed up with actions.
- You are neither as smart as you think; nor as dumb as you act.
- Do quick tasks; partition and schedule big ones. Do something to advance the ball. Dispatch the long running tasks quickly.
- Multiple “top priorities” means you have no priorities.
What are yours?
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