>From: A fellow alum
>Sent: Wednesday, February 14, 2007 10:33 PM
>To: Reinke’s Jasper (mc68alum) Persona
>Subject: Re: [ManhattanCollegeAlumni] JASPER ACTIONABLE OBIT:
>I click onto these things hoping to read good news and 95% of the time they are generated because of someone’s demise.
Oh, I see, someone returning to their “eternal reward”, isn’t good news? That’s the trick question that I have no answer for.
I do these obit broadcasts with mixed emotions. On one hand, I think it’s joyful in the sense that some of these fellow, even as communicated in a brief obit, have made a unique substantive contribution. Even badly described, it fills me with awe at some of those accomplishments. I enjoy seeing how someone reports how they lived. On the other hand, I find it depressing for several reasons: (1) They’ve left without doing a brain drain. Maybe they had “the answer”. (2) For the most part they were “good people” and the world is a “poorer” place without them. (3) I wonder if we are replacing them with the same caliber of Jaspers, since they leave so big shoes to fill.
From time to time, I hear from our fellow alums, or one of the departed’s family members, with appreciation for getting the word “out” and I get some story or other that makes me feel that the few minutes I spend each morning has made a meaningful “contribution” to the common good. Sometimes, it means that old friends get to pay respects, close the loop on an old friendship, or just know that someone cared about the deceased.
I’ve drifted into this self-appointed “ghoulish” duty with mixed feelings. Because of my “technology”, I’m probably uniquely able to do it. I keep questioning if it’s a “good” or a “bad”, positive/negative, or just a rut.
For you, I’d give the advice that if the title says “obit”, it’s probably not be the good news that you’re looking for.
On the other hand, perhaps it might help you: (1) focus on the truly important; (2) put all “problems” in perspective (it does for me); and (3) inspire you to “sing your song”, write your “brain drain”, or just do something you’ve always wanted to do. As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else.
So I ask you, should I continue? I struggle with that question regularly.